Wednesday, September 26, 2007

How To Deal With Critical People, Part 2

The next 3 that we are going to identify are...

2. THE "MARTYR" --

Favorite phrase: "No one appreciates me."

Numbers 11:11-15 "Moses said to the Lord, `Why pick on me, to give the burden of a people like this? I can't carry this nation by myself! If you're going to treat me like this, please kill me right now -- it will be a kindness! Let me out of this impossible situation!"

These people are pros at having big fat pity parties for themselves. When they are sick or under pressure they want everybody to know about it. How do you react when you don't get your way? Do you mount a complaining campaign? I have, so your in good company. Let's decide not to be the 'martyr' today.

3. THE "CYNIC"

Favorite phrase: "Nothing will ever change."

Eccl. 1:2-4,9 "Life is useless. You spend your life working and what do you have to show for it? The world stays just the same ... what has been done before will be done again."

Actually, this last phrase probably refers to cleaning the house with 4 kids. What's the use? Cynicism breeds the opposite of hope and hope is the air that we breath. Don't allow it to be polluted today.

4. THE "PERFECTIONIST"

Favorite phrase: "Is that the best you can do?"

Proverbs 27:15 "A nagging wife is like water going drip, drip, drip on a rainy day."
Proverbs 21:19 "Better to live out in the desert than with a nagging, complaining wife."


This refers to husbands also ladies, so relax! Nagging perfectionists. Nothing is ever right. Always arguing. Nothing is ever right for this person. It is never good enough. Nothing destroys the warmth of a home faster than complaining. Nothing destroys the harmony of a marriage faster than complaining. Nagging doesn't work. It just makes everybody upset. If your kids are complaining continuously, ask yourself if you are setting the example.

Ask God by His Holy Spirit to show you if you are any of the 4 mentioned these last 2 days. Tomorrow we'll talk about how to deal with others and yourself in regards to being critical people.