Monday, October 1, 2007

Stuck In A Room With You, Part 4 CRITICAL PEOPLE

STUCK IN A ROOM WITH YOU- Part 4
HOW TO DEAL WITH CRITICAL PEOPLE

This past week we looked at the story of the sinful woman who washed Jesus' feet with her tears and her hair. Simon the Pharisee stood in judgement over this woman and over Jesus. He was critical because he was convicted by his own inaction. We should be careful not to play God and stand in judgement of others. You and I will reap what we sow. Take a few minutes to see yourself in this story found in Luke 7:36-50.

The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines criticism as “an act of criticizing; to judge as a critic; to find fault; to blame or condemn.”
Step one- Make Sure You Are Not ____ONE______ Of Them. “Taste and see that the LORD is good...” Psalms 34:8
He (Jesus) said to them, "Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation. Mark 16:15
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! Galatians 5:22-23


4 Types Of Critical People THE "MARTYR" --Favorite phrase: "No one appreciates me." Num. 11:11-15 THE "CYNIC" Favorite phrase: "Nothing will ever change." Eccl. 1:2-4,9 THE "WHINER" Favorite action: “Rise and whine” Psalm 73:13 THE"PERFECTIONIST" Favorite phrase: "Is that it?"Proverbs 27:15; 21:19
Criticism –      often reveals your deepest insecurities.
Praise–           often reveals what you value most.


How can you think of saying, 'Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,' when you can't see past the log in your own eye? Matthew 7:4 NLT
“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.” Philippians 4:8-9

2. Step Two- Make Sure You Deal With Them The __Right__ way.
WRONG RESPONSES


Fight and Argue with them.
Runaway in anger.
RIGHT RESPONSES
Open Your Ears and _____LISTEN______.

When their motive is to help not hurt.  
When the person can help.                 

If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise. If you reject criticism, you only harm yourself…Proverbs 15:31-32 NLT

Open Your Mouth and ____SPEAK________.

When the person is missing information that would change his perception.
When the person is open to change. 

Close Your Mouth and Your Ears and ___MOVE____ on.

When the person is characterized by being overly critical.
When this person emotionally unhealthy or wounded.

Jesus replied, ‘Every plant not planted by my heavenly Father will be rooted up, so ignore them. They are blind guides leading the blind…they will both fall into a ditch.’  Matthew 15:13-14 NLT

WE CAN’T PLEASE ALL PEOPLE, BUT WE CAN PLEASE _GOD__!

Obviously, I'm not trying to be a people pleaser! No, I am trying to please God. If I were still trying to please people, I would not be Christ's servant. Gal 1:10 NLT

"Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe." Philippians 2:14-15


Prayer, “Father, I don’t want to be a critical person. I desire that people would taste the fruit of your Spirit in my life and that they would see the light of of your love shining through my actions. Help me to deal with critical people in the right way and to love them as you do. Use me this week to bring the good news of who you are to those around me! In Jesus name, Amen!”