Sunday, May 2, 2010

Don't Get Married Until... Part 1


WEEK 1- You Understand This One Thing! (read Genesis 29)

THAT ONE THING IS COMMITMENT!

Nearly 70% of married men & 60% of married women have affairs.
In the U.S. less than half of couples who marry will stay married 15 years.
Every 10 to 13 seconds another couple divorces.

COMMITMENT #1- (PRIORITY) I WILL LIVE MY LIFE BY PUTTING GOD FIRST
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33
Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' Matthew 22:37-39

I PROMISE THAT GOD WILL BE MY #1 PRIORITY AND MY SPOUSE WILL BE MY #2.
You shall have no other gods before me. Exodus 20:3

COMMITMENT #2- (PURSUIT) I WILL LIVE MY LIFE SELFLESSLY, NOT SELFISHLY

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Philippians 2:3

For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…Ephesians 5:25
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

united—dabaq (daw-bak'); cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit, pursue hard with affection and devotion.
I follow close behind you… Psalm 63:8 TLB (see also) Judges 20:45

WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING GOOD, SAYIT. (Hebrews 3:13)
WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING SPECIAL, DO IT. (James 4:17)
WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT, BE IT. (Romans 12:2)


COMMITMENT #3- (PARTNERSHIP) I WILL LIVE MY LIFE FOR THE “WE” AND NOT JUST “ME”.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.  Genesis 2:24
‘echad (ekh-awd’); united, altogether, completely joined as one.
…A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12

MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT NOT A CONTRACT. IT'S A COMMITMENT.
…because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Malachi 2:14

A contract is based on mutual distrust. A covenant is based on mutual commitment.
covenant: beriyth (ber-eeth'); cutting, a binding agreement, a blood covenant.

GODLY LEADERSHIP AND MUTUAL SUBMISSION.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:21-24
Any kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.  Luke 11:17-18

COMMITMENT #4- I WILL LIVE MY LIFE WITH NO SECRETS (PURITY)

Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves…and they hid from the LORD… But the LORD God called to the man, "Where are you?" He answered, "I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid." Genesis 3:7-10
Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 51:10
“... those whose hands and hearts are pure, who do not worship idols and never tell lies.
 They will receive the Lord’s blessing and have a right relationship with God their savior.” Psalm 24:4-5
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4

WHEREVER SECRETS LIVE, INTIMACY DIES.
WHEREVER INTIMACY LIVES, SECRETS DIE.

DEFEATING THE DARKNESS WITH LIGHT
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9(for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth)…Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, 14 for it is light that makes everything visible. Ephesians 5:8-9, 11-14a

CONFESS YOUR SECRET.
RECEIVE ANY CONFESSIONS WITH GRACE.
PRAY TOGETHER.

YOU'RE READY FOR MARRIAGE WHEN YOU ARE READY TO COMMIT TO... PRIORITY, PURSUIT, PARTNERSHIP, PURITY