Tuesday, September 7, 2010

How To Move From Kid CEO to Parent CEO, Pt.3

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As we discovered yesterday, having a parent-centric household with intentional intimacy is God's design. Remember, the flow of the home looks like this: God --> Husband/Wife --> Child. We discovered that we must keep doing the things that won our spouses heart in order to keep our spouses heart. This week we're using the ever-clever acrostic, K.I.D.S., to learn how to do just that. The Bible teaches us in Proverbs 26:12, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” You need to have a vision for your family which means you need to have a plan for DISCIPLINE! The next letter in the acrostic is "D" & it stands for...

3. Discipline that’s CONSISTENT.
Discipline is simply correction driven by love. When it comes to discipline, it needs to be consistent and parents must be in agreement. The Bible stresses the importance of discipline over and over again. Here are two examples:

“Discipline your children while there is hope.  Otherwise you will ruin their lives.” Proverbs 19:18
“If you love your children, you will correct them; if you don't love them, you won't correct them. Proverbs 13:24

Here's the deal, if you won’t discipline your kids, the world will. Love your kids by disciplining consistently. Please understand that discipline does not mean humiliating them. In Ed Young's book, "Kid CEO," he shares 5 essentials for discipline. They are:

1. Draw Clear Lines. (they understand the rules)
2. Maintain Consistent Boundaries. (you enforce the rules consistently)
3. Present a Unified Front. (you stay in agreement as parents in front of your child)
4. Consider the Personality Factor. (you understand each kid is different and needs different things)
5. Build the Parental Portfolio. (consistent personal investment into parenting skills)

Keep winning the daily battles by giving love and appropriate discipline that is firm and under control. As you depend on God in prayer, He will give you the strength you need to eventually win the war of wills. Remember, the goal is an obedient heart, not a perfect child!

Question- Which of the 5 essentials for discipline do you do well with as a parent?