Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Take a moment & check out my first mini-book called, Momentum: How To Keep Moving Forward When Life Seems Stuck!

Need encouragement?  Feel stuck in an area of your life? Not much of a reader?  I'm pretty sure that I just wrote the perfect book for you!  It's a little (power packed) book that I believe can make a big difference in your life.  The title of the book is, "Momentum:  How To Keep Moving Forward When Life Seems Stuck." It is currently available on kindle (click here) or you can pick it up at each of our campuses beginning this weekend.  Within the pages of this little book, I share 5 thoughts that can transform your life and help you get unstuck no matter you may be facing!  Below is the introduction, enjoy!  


   


INTRODUCTION

The Chinese Finger Trap
The brilliant Albert Einstein once said:  “I don’t believe in combs.”  (I kid, I kid. Although he must have been, right? Have you seen his hair?)

What he really said was:

 “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

We all have childhood memories of places we’ve gone on vacation, friends we’ve enjoyed hanging out with, and toys that provided countless hours of fun.
Some of my favorites included Nerf basketball, Atari, Operation, UNO, and G.I. Joe, to name a few. All of those toys were great, but looking back I can only think of one toy that I couldn’t put down, not because it was fun, but because it was so frustrating!

The toy was called the Chinese finger trap, and if you’ve never played with one before, shame on your parents for depriving you!

The Chinese finger trap - pictured on the front of this book - is simple. You place one finger into either end of this oversized, woven tootsie roll and attempt to remove them. When you start to pull away you suddenly realize that you’re trapped!

Funny how this little toy can cause a child, specifically yours truly, an irrational fear of having imprisoned, non-functioning fingers for the rest of his life.

The harder you pull back, the tighter the trap gets. And the tighter the trap gets the more you want to pull back! As a kid I experienced real moments of panic when I first started playing with this thing, wondering just what life would be like living with only eight fingers!

It was only a few years ago that I was studying for a message series on building holy momentum into your life when the Holy Spirit spoke to me in one of those oddly divine moments. I wasn’t quite sure what a Far East-inspired party favor had to do with living a momentum filled life. Then it hit me:

Momentum is all about movement.

The only way to get free from the Chinese finger trap is the only way to get free from whatever may be holding you back.

You have to push forward.

You can’t keep doing the same things over and over again and expect a different outcome. That’s what Einstein called “insanity,” remember?

This simple, yet powerful reminder was emblazoned in my heart in that moment, and it has stuck with me ever since.

Within the rest of the pages of this little book we’ll explore what this idea means because I believe it can make a huge difference in your life.

If you want to experience the freedom and life only God can offer through your one and only life, keep pressing on and never give up!

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Fixing Us, Part 3- Let's Get Ready To Rumble!


Marriage Myth: Married life is an unhappy life.  The truth is that most marriages last.  Married people have more money, are happier, have better sex and live longer than single people.  (here is the link to the positive statistics mentioned, click here)
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This week we are challenging every married couple in our church to go on a date each week.  Join us as work together to begin, "fixing us!"

Date Night By Design (click here*courtesy of MarriedLifeOnline.com  
The 11th commandment of a happy marriage should be, "thou shalt date your spouse."  

Counseling- Going to church is easier than going to a counselor but it's totally fine if you still need to see a counselor!  If that's you, email hope@freedomlife.tv and we will send you some referral options for your area.
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(watch this message online now! click here)

"Homes are built on the foundation of wisdom and understanding."  Proverbs 24:3 

WHY DO WE FIGHT?
“For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.”  James 3:16 (NLT)

Fights Within A Marriage Relationship Occur When There Are:
     -Unmet need
     -Unfulfilled expectations
     -Unresolved conflict 
     -Undeveloped self-worth

“What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don't they come from the evil desires at war within you?”  James 4:1 (NLT)

Key Thought- We fight when marriage becomes about “me” instead of “we.” 
“My lover is mine and I am his...”.  Song 2:16
"A man should fulfill his duty as a husband and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's needs.”  I Cor. 7:3 (GN)

Dr. Willard Harley, in his book called "His Needs, Her Needs," identified through thousands of couples what causes failure within marriage.  When we fail to understand and meet one another's needs, unhappiness, affairs and divorce are more likely.  The following are the top 5 needs for men and women according to Harley.

The top five needs of most men are:
1.  Sexual fulfillment   
2. Recreational companionship
3. An attractive spouse
4. Domestic support
5. Admiration

The top five needs of most women are: 
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty and openness
4. Financial support
5. Family commitment

HOW TO FIGHT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

"If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand." Mark 3:25
You are on the same team.  You are not enemies.  Treat one another like best friends and you will be.

Key Thought- We Have A Tendency To Judge Our Spouse By His Or Her Actions And Ourselves By Our Intentions.  Begin To Close The Gap Between Intentions And Actions To Fight For A Happier Marriage.

  • When You Think Something Good, SAY IT.   
“But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness.” Hebrews 3:13

Key Thought- Pursue her with words of affection. Pursue him with words of affirmation. 

  •  When You Think Something Special, DO IT. 

“Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins.” James 4:17

Put into practice The Five Love Languages that were discussed last week. Choose to love them the way that they like to be loved today.  We give & receive love in the following ways: Acts of kindness, Words of affirmation, Physical touch, Gifts, Quality time.  Make the change!

  •  When You Want Something Different, BE IT.  

“Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.”  Romans 12:2 (NLT)

Key Thought- To get what you’ve never had, you must do what you’ve never done.  To get what you once had, you must do what you once did. (*see Revelation 2:5)

HOW TO FIGHT FAIR IN YOUR MARRIAGE

  •  Choose To Act And Not React.    

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21

  •  Choose To Focus On The Good And Not The Bad.   

“…whatever is pure…lovely…admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.”  Philippians 4:8

"We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are." ANA├»S NIN

  • Choose To Talk And Not Walk. 

"Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."  Ephesians 4:26-27

Dr. Phil writes in his bestselling book, Relationship Rescue:  "… an interesting statistic shared by David McLaughlin in his wonderful series entitled The Role of the Man in the Family reflects that the divorce rate in America is at a minimum one out of two marriages. But the reported divorce rate among couples that pray together is about one in ten thousand. Pretty impressive statistic, even if you reduce it a thousandfold."  

Final Thought-  Pray for each other, pray over each other, pray with each other.  Prayer produces intimacy.  Prayer gives you the power that you need to love. 

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.”  1 Peter 4:8 (NLT)

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Fixing Us! Week 2- How To Stay A Newlywed Until You're Nearly Dead


Last week we launched our message series on marriages and relationships. We learned that you need to make the choice between weeds or seeds in order to build a lasting marriage.  Here are a few of the thoughts:

Marriage Myth: Married life is unhappy life.  The truth is that most marriages last.  Married people have more money, are happier, have better sex and live longer than single people.  (here is the link to the positive statistics mentioned, click here)

  • WEEDS That Destroy Marriages Are:

Selfish Demands / Disrespectful Judgments / Angry Outbursts / Dishonesty / Annoying habits / Independent Behavior (Solomon 2:15, Proverbs 24:30-34, Matthew 13:24-30)

  • SEEDS That Build Great Marriages Are:   

The Seed of AGREEMENT (Amos 3:3, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15) The Seed of APPRECIATION / The Seed of ATTENTION (1 Cor 7:33-34, Proverbs 18:13, Job 33:14, James 1:19, 1John 3:18, Philippians 2:4, Eph 5:21, Rom 15:5)The Seed of AFFECTION (Rom 12:10, Rev 2:4-5) / The Seed Of AFFIRMATION (Heb 3:13, Proverbs 12:25, 2 Cor 7:4) 

  • Begin SOWING To Begin GROWING.  (Matthew 7:12)
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This week we are challenging every married couple in our church to go on a date each week.  Join us as work together to begin, "fixing us!"

Date Night By Design (click here*courtesy of MarriedLifeOnline.com  
The 11th commandment of a happy marriage should be, "thou shalt date your spouse."  

Counseling- Going to church is easier than going to a counselor but it's totally fine if you still need to see a counselor!  If that's you, email hope@freedomlife.tv and we will send you some referral options in your area.
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Fixing Us-  Part 2  How To Stay A Newlywed Until You're Nearly Dead  (watch this message online now! click here)

“Whatever a man sows, he reaps…”  Galatians 6:7

 Jesus told a church: “The love you had at first is gone. Remember how far you have fallenReturn to Me and change the way you think and act, and do what you did at first.”  Revelation 2:4-5 (GW)

1.  REMEMBER How You Used To Feel

“I will (remember) tell of the kindnesses of the LORD, the deeds for which he is to be praised, according to all the LORD has done for us-- yes, the many good things he has done for Israel, according to his compassion and many kindnesses.”  Isaiah 63:7 (NIV)

Key Thought-  You Choose Your Memories And Your Memories Will Choose Your Future.

2.  Change Your Way Of THINKING  

“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.”  Romans 12:10 (NLT) *see also 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)

“Look out for one another’s interests, not just your own.”  Philippians 2:4 (TEV)
“Honor Christ by submitting to each other.”  Ephesians 5:21 (LB)

Key Thought— Choose To Act Your Way Into A Feeling Instead Of Feel Your Way Into An Action.

3.  Do What Is Needed To Make Your Marriage SUCCEED

“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”  Ephesians 5:33 (NLT)
“Our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action.”  1 John 3:18 (TEV)

5 Love Languages
1.  Words of Affirmation  
2.  Quality Time
3.  Receiving Gifts
4.  Acts of Service
5.  Physical Touch

"Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”  Matthew 7:12




Saturday, October 4, 2014

Fixing Us! Week 1- Weeds Or Seeds


Over the next few weeks we are focusing our message series on marriages and relationships. Each week will be talking about how to take your marriage and friendships to a whole NUTHA level. We will also be challenging every married couple in our church to go on a date each week.  Join us as work together to begin, "fixing us!"

Date Night By Design (click here) *courtesy of Focus on the family  The 11th commandment of a happy marriage should be, "thou shalt date your spouse."  

Counseling- Going to church is easier than going to a counselor but it's totally fine if you still need to see a counselor!  If that's you, email hope@freedomlife.tv and we will send you some referral options in your area.

Fixing Us-  Part 1  Weeds Or Seeds  (watch this message online now! click here)
“Whatever a man sows, he reaps…”  Galatians 6:7

Marriage Myth: Married life is unhappy life.  The truth is that most marriages last.  Married people have more money, are happier, have better sex and live longer than single people.  (here is the link to the positive statistics mentioned, click here)

WEEDS That Destroy Marriages Are:
Selfish Demands / Disrespectful Judgments / Angry Outbursts / Dishonesty / Annoying habits / Independent Behavior (Solomon 2:15, Proverbs 24:30-34, Matthew 13:24-30)

5 Seeds That Are An Essential Part Of Every Happy & Healthy Relationship. 
  1. The Seed of AGREEMENT (Amos 3:3, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15)
  2. The Seed of APPRECIATION.   Key Thought-  Keep Your Level Of Appreciation Greater Than Your Level Of Expectation.   
  3. The Seed of ATTENTION. (1 Corinthians 7:33-34, Proverbs 18:13, Job 33:14, James 1:19, 1John 3:18, Philippians 2:4, Ephesians 5:21, Romans 15:5 
  4. The Seed of AFFECTION.   (Romans 12:10, Revelation 2:4-5) 
  5. The Seed Of AFFIRMATION.  (Hebrews 3:13, Proverbs 12:25, 2 Corinthians 7:4) Key Thought-  Choose to be your spouses best fan instead of their worst critic.  
  • Begin SOWING To Begin GROWING.  (Matthew 7:12)