Saturday, October 11, 2014

Fixing Us! Week 2- How To Stay A Newlywed Until You're Nearly Dead

Last week we launched our message series on marriages and relationships. We learned that you need to make the choice between weeds or seeds in order to build a lasting marriage.  Here are a few of the thoughts:

Marriage Myth: Married life is unhappy life.  The truth is that most marriages last.  Married people have more money, are happier, have better sex and live longer than single people.  (here is the link to the positive statistics mentioned, click here)

  • WEEDS That Destroy Marriages Are:

Selfish Demands / Disrespectful Judgments / Angry Outbursts / Dishonesty / Annoying habits / Independent Behavior (Solomon 2:15, Proverbs 24:30-34, Matthew 13:24-30)

  • SEEDS That Build Great Marriages Are:   

The Seed of AGREEMENT (Amos 3:3, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15) The Seed of APPRECIATION / The Seed of ATTENTION (1 Cor 7:33-34, Proverbs 18:13, Job 33:14, James 1:19, 1John 3:18, Philippians 2:4, Eph 5:21, Rom 15:5)The Seed of AFFECTION (Rom 12:10, Rev 2:4-5) / The Seed Of AFFIRMATION (Heb 3:13, Proverbs 12:25, 2 Cor 7:4) 

  • Begin SOWING To Begin GROWING.  (Matthew 7:12)

This week we are challenging every married couple in our church to go on a date each week.  Join us as work together to begin, "fixing us!"

Date Night By Design (click here*courtesy of  
The 11th commandment of a happy marriage should be, "thou shalt date your spouse."  

Counseling- Going to church is easier than going to a counselor but it's totally fine if you still need to see a counselor!  If that's you, email and we will send you some referral options in your area.

Fixing Us-  Part 2  How To Stay A Newlywed Until You're Nearly Dead  (watch this message online now! click here)

“Whatever a man sows, he reaps…”  Galatians 6:7

 Jesus told a church: “The love you had at first is gone. Remember how far you have fallenReturn to Me and change the way you think and act, and do what you did at first.”  Revelation 2:4-5 (GW)

1.  REMEMBER How You Used To Feel

“I will (remember) tell of the kindnesses of the LORD, the deeds for which he is to be praised, according to all the LORD has done for us-- yes, the many good things he has done for Israel, according to his compassion and many kindnesses.”  Isaiah 63:7 (NIV)

Key Thought-  You Choose Your Memories And Your Memories Will Choose Your Future.

2.  Change Your Way Of THINKING  

“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.”  Romans 12:10 (NLT) *see also 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)

“Look out for one another’s interests, not just your own.”  Philippians 2:4 (TEV)
“Honor Christ by submitting to each other.”  Ephesians 5:21 (LB)

Key Thought— Choose To Act Your Way Into A Feeling Instead Of Feel Your Way Into An Action.

3.  Do What Is Needed To Make Your Marriage SUCCEED

“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”  Ephesians 5:33 (NLT)
“Our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action.”  1 John 3:18 (TEV)

5 Love Languages
1.  Words of Affirmation  
2.  Quality Time
3.  Receiving Gifts
4.  Acts of Service
5.  Physical Touch

"Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”  Matthew 7:12